Partial Con Report for Chicago motss.con (1996)
Part 1
Here's my attempt at writing a con report. I fear it is going to
turn out to be rather long. So maybe I'll break it into a couple
of parts and post the rest at a later time. If it seems
disproportionately about food, that might be because I went to the con
to eat and have a good time, and specifically not to engage in
hot-hot-man-man-sex or cruising, or even flirting. Perhaps I
wouldn't have rejected it if it had happened; but that was far afield of
my current mood and I didn't seek or expect it. This ultimately
led to a wonderfully relaxed con, one where I got plenty of sleep and
stayed healthy.
If you've never been to a con it is difficult to convey the feeling of
immersion into a social matrix that one undergoes. Oddly enough,
even though this was just my second con (I missed DC, unfortunately; but
I did attend Las Vegas, though my status at the time was lurker and
"spouse" and I neither knew nor was known to very many people) I had a
clear picture or had actually met in person a fair proportion of the
people who attended. So I felt no anxiety about what was to come,
only anticipation as I deplaned at Midway on Thursday afternoon.
I had made plans by e-mail to meet Jeremy Mallory and Dan Benfield at
the airport to share a ride back to the con hotel. Even though I
had missed the DC con, I had met both of them previously when I was in
DC for the Vermeer exhibit. So at least I had no trouble
identifying Jeremy at the gate when I arrived. I think he was
slightly mystified by the change of appearance I had undergone since
February. I have cut off my beard (for the first time in 5 years);
and I think that made a difference. In any case I went up to him
and re-introduced myself and we were off to find Dan who was guarding
the luggage (it turned out that the Jeremy and I had identical Samsonite
suitcases, a strange connection.)
I'd like to make it clear right now, that there are a whole bunch of
soc.motssers at the con who I find incredibly attractive and
interesting. Both Jeremy and Dan fall right into that category, though
for differing reasons. Jeremy is voluable and verbally amusing
while Dan has one of the nicest personas (and shy smile to go with it)
that I've ever encountered. Both are drop dead cute (though this
shouldn't be news to anybody since most con reports have made that point
one way or another.) In any case, after a slight amount of dithering
over whether we should try a limo or public transportation, we decided
to risk a cab (a good decision since it turned out to be a quite
reasonable fare for the 3 of us and got us to the hotel in great
time.) The cab ride was made pleasurable by conversation and
participating on the ongoing boy/man watching which all three of us
found ourselves involved in. Chicago is full of gorgeous
guys. Many of them on roller blades, which seemed to turn Jeremy
on a great deal.
When we got to the hotel my first Chicago.con sight was Josh Simon
holding court in the main lobby (which ended up being an almost perfect
con-central meeting and socializing spot.) Josh has a wonderfully
sarcastic verbal style, and I warmed to him immediately and always
enjoyed being around him. He was passing out con packets, which
contained color coded maps for each planned event and a badge (which I
lost the second day among the detritus in my room and didn't find again
until I was packing to leave. Fortunately, by then, most people
knew who I was.) When I checked in I was given a room right next
to the elevator. I could hear the thunk of the door quite clearly
during the day. I immediately knew that was going to be trouble;
so I returned to the front desk and pleaded with them to change me to a
quieter room. I ended up being quite pleased with the room they
gave me, across from the elevator and in a corner - safely on the quiet
side of the hotel away from the El and the street. I am certainly
glad I did this, since it meant I slept quite soundly every night - even
more soundly than I do in my own bed in LA. I *loved* the hotel
because of this (in addition to all the other nice things about the City
Suites, mainly that they let us take over the lobby and were remarkably
sympathetic and gracious hosts.)
When I came down to socialize after "freshening" up for dinner, I saw
Jess Anderson (we've known each other for years, and it was like picking
up a conversation we had just quit the day before.) Jess and I
did a lot of the con events together, ate most of our meals in
common. I even ended up accompanying him on many of his smoke
breaks (though cigarets are far from my mind nowadays,) just to bask in
his aura and enjoy the delights of his company. Time after time he
would make observant commentary which would crystalize the experience
for me. He is truly a worthy compadre and I can't imagine what the
con would have been like without his company.
We decided to go Greek for dinner. The con had chosen three
restaurants to make reservations for that evening. The Greek
Island sounded the best (and to tell the truth, Greek food and wine is
one of my favorites; and I'd heard that Chicago was famous for its Greek
Town eateries.) I guess ten of us ended up decending on the
restaurant (and we were soon joined mid-meal by a few more, notably Greg
Havican), and they accomodated us with no problem, though the
reservation had been for four. I drove to the restaurant with
Jess; but this turned out to be the last time I would use anything
except bus or El (and a lot of footpower) for the rest of the con.
Chicago is a remarkably civilized city in its transportation
system...just another reason to love it.
Maybe I should make a brief digression here about Chicago. I had
only been to the city three times in my life, the last in 1967. I
had previously only been there during the dog days of summer (the first
time pre-airconditioning when I was about 12). Chicago was one of
Howard's favorite cities. He lived there for a while and was
always raving about the food and the life. So I was anxious to
experience it (but sorry, as with just about every aspect of my current
life, that I could no longer share it with Howard.) Any fears I
had about beastly weather were banished by the presence of the great
weatherjesus who blessed us with almost perfect (for me) cool/sunny or
drizzly weather. Actually, the only weather I can't abide is
hot-humid, so I was in heaven the whole time. And Chicago, what
can I say? It has bounded to near the top of the pack in terms of
my favorite cities...I can't wait to return and sample more of its
pleasures.
Back at the restaurant, I was instrumental in getting the table to order
the mixed appetizer plate of things like squid and fish roe salad and
other delights of Greek cooking. They were all done quite nicely,
and I was very pleased. Chuck Craig (a Chicagoan who obviously had
been to the restaurant before) shared a couple of his favorite
appetizer plates with us and they were remarkable (and not exactly spa
food): a garlic potato spread and a white cheese grilled to
perfection in olive oil. The bread was excellent. And,
though the restaurant didn't have the wine I wanted, the Greek white
they came up with (Lac des Roches) was quite acceptable.
I ordered lamb (something I almost always do in Greek restaurants),
which was a massive rack baked in a gloppy lemon batter. It was
delicious. Great choice, con.committee (and I noticed that several
committee members had joined us, a good sign that we were making the
right choice.)
By the time we returned to the con.hotel around 10 PM, several new
people had shown up. It all gets a little hazy here. I was
incredibly tired after an extremely long day (Arne had inadvertantly set
his alarm for 4:30 AM, and I had to be at the airport by 8:30, so I
never got back to sleep; and I had been working night and day for a week
anyway, so I was several hours in serious sleep debt.) So I
forewent going out to the jazz club crawl led by Tim Pierce (whom I had
never met before; but who was *exactly* how I had imagined him.
Although the parts revealed the next night as he graphically illustrated
Ilona's story came as a pleasant surprise.) I retired early, and
had a wonderfully restful 9 hours of sleep and awoke early Friday
morning raring to go.
[I can see this is going to be a lengthy process. And I fear most
people are bored to tears with con reports. So I'm going to stop
right now, only one day into the con, and pick up the rest later if I
can make time. In any case, I had one of the best weekends of my
life and I want to thank everybody involved. Can't wait till the
next one!]
PART 2
In part one of these con reminiscences I was waking up refreshed after a
wonderful nine hours of sleep early Friday morning. After my
usual morning ablutions, I decended the stairs to the already jumping
lobby by 9 AM. This was to be the pattern for the rest of the
con. No matter what hour one arrived in the central lobby there
were several people occupying one of the two couches and several chairs
or spread in various states of repose or rapt conversation on the floor
(incidently, there was also a lot of more or less public displays of
affection going on quite openly in the lobby, too; and the hotel staff
or occasional non-motss guest passerby never seemed to as much as
blink...another reason I loved this hotel.)
After greeting friends and newly met motssers we all set out by el for
the first big con event of the weekend, the brunch at the West Egg Cafe
downtown on the Gold Coast.
But before I get on that elevated train, I'd like to digress for a few
paragraphs and describe for you some of the new acquaintences I had made
on Thursday night (which should have gone into Part 1, but didn't,
because of my fitful memory and the rather unplanned nature of this
report.) I also must apologize in advance for the scattershot
nature of these thumbnail descriptions. Unlike Jess, I don't
intend to try comprehensively to describe everyone I met at the
con: only those who for one reason or another were important to
*my* con experience. I will miss many people who were there, and
with whom I enjoyed experiencing the con; and I'm sorry about
that. I don't intend this report to go on forever, only
almost.
Two of the first people I saw when I arrived were
Scott-Saffier-Champ-Knecht. One has to think of them as one
individual since they seemed to be connected like siamese twins the
whole con. However, they turned out to be very different
personalities for all that. Scott was outgoing in person and had a
video camera to his eye for most of the con, Champ seemed more
reserved. They made a good pair. And when Champ showed up
Friday morning with an obvious hicky on his neck, I'm sure nobody was
surprised. The very first thing I did when I encountered them in the
elevator was inquire how each pronounced his name. Knecht didn't
surprise me (the K is sounded); but Saffier (like the word safer) was a
surprise. Scott reminded me that I had mentioned on the con
mail-list that I was going to go to the Art Institute on Friday; and he
wanted to make sure I included him and Champ in those plans. I was
delighted. And when Scott showed up in the lobby after dinner on
Thursday shirtless and leather vested (with extremely fetching hairy
pecs), for one of the few times at the con I was tempted to flirt.
But I maintained my icy control. If anybody at the con was
"taken", it was Scott.
Also when we got back from Dinner on Thursday, eagle-eyed Josh noted the
car with Ohio license plates parked in front of the hotel and wondered
aloud if Arnold or Anne had arrived. It turned out to be Ayana
Craven, whom I had met at a dinner we held in LA a month earlier. I
was glad to see her, we hugged, and then I don't think I saw her the
entire rest of the con. Mysteries like that seem to happen at
cons.
The highlight of the evening happened when I wandered outside the hotel
entrance to join Jess in one of his frequent cigarette breaks (where a
lot of the important conversations were joined). Jess was
talking animatedly to a rather diminutive person in a nice flax
colored linen jacket. I had my suspicions, and sure enough, Jess
introduced me to the fearsome man-lopper, Melinda Shore, whom I had
never met before. I'm not sure what I expected from this gigantic net
presence; but I found the reality was a wonderfully warm, smiling,
totally 'there' presence, which shouldn't have surprised me in the
least.
*sigh*, I still can't manage to get past Thursday. Four more days
to go, too. Well, this con was that kind of event...consistantly
enthralling and fascinating. It's no wonder that the mail-list is
still quite active after more than a week - nobody wants to let go of
the euphria most of us felt (or maybe it's also the ubiquitous con cold
that many others seemed to have caught.)
Alright, back to that Red Line train to downtown, where we exited at the
Chicago/State stop and treked en masse through downtown to the cafe for
brunch. This was my first look at downtown Chicago, and Jess
pointed out the charmingly primitive Waterworks building among the
striking skyscrapers, so I knew I was actually there.
The West Egg Cafe turned out to be a nice breakfast place with a huge
menu. We took over most of the inside room, probably at least
forty people, with more arriving by the minute. I made a bad
choice, the Grabowsky: polish sausage and eggs, which I requested
poached. The eggs came out hard as rocks...probably runny poached
is foreign to the culture of the midwest. The star of the meal was
a long haired latecomer, Steven Levine, who is supposed to be shy and
retiring in social situations from his own posts. However the way
he ended up "doing the room" at the West Egg, going from table to table
schmoozing with everybody in turn, was almost a textbook example of
social skills.
I was impressed. Also sitting across from me were another couple,
whose names escaped me. This turned out to be the former lurker
Michael Abramson and his friend James. For some reason I never did
catch their names during the con; and only afterwards through Michael's
posts have I established a firm identity for this mysterious
couple. It is true that lurkers can have a good time and meet
people at the con (hi, Leroy!); but it certainly does help in
identifying strangers when somebody has firmly established an identity
by posting prior to the con. I do remember warning Michael not to
try the Grabowsky, which was so disappointing...but he ordered it
anyway.
After the meal the attendees separated into two groups. Some went
off shopping. I helped lead a group of maybe 15 walking south to
the Art Institute. On the way, we toured Michigan Ave. over the
Chicago River. Finally some of the Chicago I remember from my youth (the
Wrigley Building and the Tribune were once towering presences; now
they're all but lost in the clutter of the new cityscape.) We
passed a remarkable park full of statues of rabbits, of all
things. I dubbed it the "Tom Farrell Memorial Park" and several
pictures of the group standing in front of the statuary were
taken.
When we got to the Art Institute we broke into smaller groups (after a
surrealistic experience of buying tickets from a singularly
unenthusiastic ticket seller: he kept pleading with us to please,
go to the other line across the hall. And I had the moral dilemma
of whether or not to fudge my age by 4 months and get in for half-price
as a 55 year old senior. My honest side won out over my greedy
side, in addition to the fact that I'm not rushing senior citizen
status.)
I ended up touring through the Impressionists, Post-I's, and Moderns for
the first hour with the delightful twosome of Jess Anderson and Melinda
Shore. Melinda seemed particularly taken with Joseph Cornell's
artful boxes, something I attributed to her living in Ithaca (haha, no
relation, I think.) I found the vaunted collection of
Impressionists quite impressive, even overwhelming. But I was far
from museumed out when Jess and Melinda decided along with most of the
rest of the group to retire from the field early. I went back and
spent an additional hour and a half touring the old-master collection,
and what was available from the American art collection (which was
mostly in storage while they are in the process of refurbishing the
exhibit to reopen in October.) I was struck with awe by the main
room on the second floor with a magificent El Greco alterpiece of the
ascending Virgin in the center flanked by an impressive Zuberain
crucifixion and a gorgeous Caravaggio resurrection on either side.
This is a room to rival the Velasquez room at the Prado, which is also
quite awesome. Another much beloved painting, El Greco's St.
Martin and the beggar was on view. I especially love this painting
because St. Martin reminds me of Howard Faye and I literally cried
while viewing it here in Chicago.
I was disappointed by the shortages in the American collection and the
fact that American Gothic was out on loan. But Hopper's Nighthawks
made up for a lot. And there was a wonderful exhibit of Chuck
Close upstairs in the Rice Building (contrasting him with another
American painter whose name escapes me; but who offered an astounding
painting which consisted of all the words in the dictionary minutely
hand-printed and intertwined in an artful melange...it was called
"Everything" or something like that. Also a memorable bar of soap
scored with a concentric design. Ah, modern art...)
I was left unsatiated and needing an additional fix of American
art. A kind woman at the front information desk touted me to the
collection at the Terra Museum across from Niketown on Michigan
Ave. I went there and was impressed by their show of four African
American artists, particularly William Edouard Scott, an early 20th
Century master whom I had never heard of. Look out for him, he's a
great, relatively unknown artist!
I decided to check out the Sony store before I went back to the hotel,
and was impressed by some of the exhibits. And I was amused to
note that Niketown had a sign in front that said its hours of operation
were from 10 AM 'till 8:07:20 PM. Somebody has a sense of humor;
but I'm just anal enough to return one day with my watch calibrated to
the second to see if they live up to their sign.
By this time I was tired of shopping alone, so I returned to the hotel
only to be hit by a whole new wave of people in the lobby (I especially
enjoyed meeting Jeffrey Sandris finally, though we never managed to have
that chat we've been promising each other in e-mail for ever.)
After making huggy huggy with several people I was seeing for the first
time I retired to my room to read and rest up for the evening to come at
Reza's and the theater.
Which is where I'll stop for this post. I've managed to get
through only 8 hours of events for all this verbage. At this rate
I'll have written a novel by the time I finish.